It starts off so innocently… you’re on Facebook stalking “browsing” a friend’s wall when you notice an interesting link of an article, photo, video or whatever. You click it to dive in but are interrupted not by some meaningless ad but by a Facebook privacy prompt forcing you to assign all of your rights away in order to view it. Since you’ve seen this a hundred times you click ahead hardly reading a word and on to the link… which wasn’t that good anyways.
Weeks later you get a notice that a friend is mocking an article you read from the same site. Confused as to how they knew this you head to your wall only to find out all Fashion & Lifestyle blog post you’ve secretly been skimming over have been shared to everyone you know. Even your mom.
In fear you vow never to allow an app again — but then you see a photo and its funny cats — and you just have to say yes. So you click ok again…
What’s happening is “frinctionless sharing“… A genius idea (really, I mean it) from Facebook that was designed to help make sharing things you regularly use easier and less invasive. But as with so many good idea, the problem isn’t in they thought up but rather in how it was used.
There is a solution to stop this forever. And it takes just 2 extra clicks.
While sites can force you to Facebook connect in order to read their content, even require you to permit frinctionless sharing they can’t control who you share too. So next time you get a prompt like this follow the 3 steps below.
- Click on the drop down below the text “Who can see posts…“.
- Then select “Only Me” from the options list (or limit posts to a list you’ve created)
- Confirm the app and you’re good to go.
The app will still be able make posts (so you gain entrance) and you’ll still see them too… but no one else. Of course other settings like your info, posts, and friends may be exposed so consider those as well.
And as a marketer I do want to remind you that not all apps are bad:
Most of the time when you connect it’s because you want to do something and sharing that makes sense — so if you believe the company is going about it in a respectful way there’s no need to lock the app away in the corner (for example at giftery.me we give you the option before we share & let you remove it in a click after we share). After all frictionless sharing is about helping improve your experience and bring your friends in… but when it’s being done wrong, well, that’s when it’s time to change.
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A note to my regular blog readers: I realize this post is a departure from my normal insight straight to the other side of the table and I promise it won’t happen often. However as more companies have started to take “frinctionless sharing” as an invitation for forced & unannounced sharing I’ve found myself answering this question far too often.
Sufficient to say we should all strive to build tools that people feel comfortable adding in a way that’s transparent so they don’t feel the need to limit us.



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